Bullying is a repeated aggressive behavior

Bullying is a repeated aggressive behavior where one person (or group of people) in a position of power deliberately intimidates, abuses, or coerces an individual with the intention to hurt that person physically or emotionally.

Bullying Defined

There are two basic situations. One is where you give your power away to someone attempting to shame or control you. You have some power in this situation. Not understanding what is happening and why it impacts you keeps you from responding in a way that keeps you safe and retains your power.

The other situation is where you have no power, and someone abuses their power because they can. That is a much more difficult situation that often has few good options.

People who are bullied in childhood are more likely to be bullied in adulthood. Bullies can smell a vulnerability in others and have the ability to exploit them. Solid boundaries are essential in both situations.

There are few things as horrible and soul-killing as being continually bullied. Bullying is terrible and can put your life in danger. It is awful and can easily result in victimhood as a way of being in the world.

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  • “Mine has been a life of much shame. I can’t even guess what it must be to live the life of a human being.”

    Osamu Dazai

  • “We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous. Shame is highly correlated with addiction, violence, aggression, depression, eating disorders, and bullying.”

    Brené Brown

  • “There is a beast in my gut, I can hear it scraping away at my ribs. Even if I dump the memory, it will stay with me, staining me.”

    Laurie Halse Anderson

  • “Dysfunctional families are frozen in a trancelike state. The shame-core keeps the system frozen. Everyone is in hiding. The roles cover up each person’s true and authentic self. ”

    John Bradshaw

  • “When our wounds cease to be a source of shame, and become a source of healing, we have become wounded healers.”

    Henri J. M. Nouwen