Foundations of Boundaries Course
Welcome to the course summary page. Below you will find all of the course lesson modules. To pick up where you left off please click the “Continue Course” button below.
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Introduction to Course
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Step 1 - How You Became You
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Lesson 1: Defining the "Self"
Defining "the self" is crucial for understanding one's identity, motivations, and interactions with the world. It serves as the cornerstone for personal growth and fulfillment, guiding individuals on a path towards authenticity and self-realization.
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Lesson 2: Your Self Awareness
Explore the enigmatic depths of the sense of self, where identity meets perception in a dance of introspection and societal reflection. Unlock the mysteries of your own self-awareness.
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Lesson 3: Navigating Change
Adolescence marks a transformative period where individuals grapple with identity, peer influence, and societal expectations, shaping their evolving sense of self. This journey of self-discovery involves testing boundaries, exploring interests, and forging personal values, ultimately laying the groundwork for future relationships and life choices.
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Lesson 4: Sex, Love, and all the Above
Boundaries are deeply linked to our experiences with love, shaping our ability to be open and vulnerable in relationships. Positive or negative encounters with love greatly influence boundary formation, impacting our capacity to establish healthy and respectful connections. Thus, how we navigate love profoundly shapes our boundaries, affecting the quality of our relationships and emotional well-being.
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Lesson 5: The Observing Ego
The observing ego helps differentiate between reactive impulses and thoughtful responses. It enables individuals to step back, assess situations objectively, and choose actions aligned with their values and goals, fostering emotional intelligence and resilience.
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Lesson 6: Self-Actualization, Transcendence, & The Final Stage
Maslow's hierarchy of needs highlights the correlation between fulfilling basic needs and developing strong boundaries, emphasizing safety as the foundation for assertive boundary-setting, leading to enhanced self-awareness and overall well-being.
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Wrap-up & Review
Wrap-up and review Step 1
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Step 2 - The Principal & Broader Boundaries
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Step 2 Overview
Having a shared vocabulary ensures clarity and mutual understanding when setting boundaries. It minimizes confusion and misinterpretation, fostering effective communication and respect for each other's limits and needs.
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Lesson 1: The Principal Boundaries
Common boundaries discussed here include emotional, energetic, financial, intellectual, material, physical, political, spiritual, sexual, and time.
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Lesson 2: The Broader Boundaries
Common boundaries discussed here are cultural, relational, and social.
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Wrap-up & Review
Wrap-up and review of Step 2
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Step 4 - The Essential Boundary
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Step 4 Overview
Saying no is vital for strong boundaries—it sets limits, preserves autonomy, and protects well-being. It communicates self-respect and reinforces healthy relationships by honoring personal needs and priorities.
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Lesson 1: The Dance of Intimacy
Children learn boundary-setting through the "dance of intimacy" with family, mirroring parental behaviors. Caregivers scaffold healthy boundaries, shaping future interactions and relationships.
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Lesson 2: Boundaries & Guilt
Childhood guilt affects boundary development, leading to prioritizing others' needs and difficulty in asserting oneself. Addressing this early conditioning is crucial for fostering self-compassion and assertiveness in adulthood.
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Lesson 3: Toxic Shame
Toxic shame undermines boundaries by fostering feelings of unworthiness and fear of rejection. It leads to self-neglect or overcompensation for validation, perpetuating unhealthy relationships. Healing involves challenging beliefs, practicing self-compassion, and asserting boundaries from self-respect, not fear.
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Lesson 4: Selfishness
Selfishness neglects others' boundaries, leading to manipulation and erosion of trust. Balancing self-care with consideration fosters healthy boundaries and mutual respect.
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Lesson 5: Individuation
Individuation fosters self-identity, enabling confident boundary assertion by honoring personal needs. It cultivates autonomy and mutual respect in relationships.
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Lesson 6: Victimhood vs Victimized
Distinguishing between being victimized and adopting a victim mentality is crucial. Recognizing victimization aids healing and boundary assertion, while avoiding a perpetual victim mindset fosters resilience and personal growth.
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Lesson 7: Love Confusion
Love's intensity can blur boundaries and trigger self-doubt, as prioritizing a partner's needs may compromise identity. This selflessness can prompt confusion about personal boundaries and desires, leading to uncertainty. Conditional or manipulative love worsens self-esteem. Navigating love requires self-awareness, clear communication, and preserving autonomy amid emotions.
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Lesson 8: Reframing Your Beliefs
Reframing childhood beliefs fosters personal growth by aligning values and aspirations, breaking free from limiting patterns, and fostering resilience.
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Lesson 9: Apologizing
Constantly apologizing undermines boundaries, prioritizing others' comfort over one's own needs. It fosters guilt and resentment, blurring the line between necessary and excessive apologies, hindering assertiveness and healthy relationships.
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Lesson 10: Bits & Pieces
Chosen families, built on shared values and trust, often surpass biological ties. They offer genuine support and understanding, providing a sense of belonging and connection absent in some biological relationships. These bonds thrive on authenticity and mutual respect, fostering deep connections based on love and shared values.
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Lesson 11: No Means No, No Excuses
Excuse-making instead of saying no stems from fear and undermines boundaries. Assertive declination fosters healthy communication and self-respect, breaking the cycle of people-pleasing.
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Wrap-up & Review
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